graceebooks:

men at large think they are being robbed of something when an attractive woman with a 90% chance of developing breast cancer gets a double mastectomy

what better illustration of the male sense of sexual entitlement do you need

May or may not have spontaneously double fist pumped sitting alone watching the ending of Elementary tonight. Joan Watson is fucking amazing. This probably one of the strongest first seasons of any show I’ve watched. Highest recommendations. 

221books:

catbountry:

myeyesarehazel:

Surprisingly, perfectionists are often procrastinators, as they can tend to think “I don’t have the right skills or resources to do this perfectly now, so I won’t do it at all.”

My entire educational experience summed up in one sentence.

My entire life summed up in one sentence. 

(Source: loptr-laufeyjarson)

gradientlair:

This is basically what I do/will do when I have to deal with street harassment from a man while he is on the job, and should be focused on his work: 

When men street harass me while in a company uniform/car, I contact their employer. I’m also gonna start blasting the companies on Twitter.

— Trudy (@thetrudz)

July 23, 2012

I figure they might not care about respect or stopping sexism but that paycheck/bottom line will make those dudes/companies care.

— Trudy (@thetrudz)

July 23, 2012

No exceptions.

Related Posts: I Love When I Am Not Bothered In Public, Street Harassment Observations

gradientlair:

I am not interesting in abandoning intersectional feminist work as a Womanist just because some White feminists confuse gendered White supremacy for feminism.

Thus, I am not going to applaud White supremacy, racism, White privilege, patriarchy, patriarchal masculinity, phallocentrism, sexism, misogyny, misogynoir, male privilege, classism, class privilege, homophobia, transphobia, heterosexual privilege, ableism, colourism, or any other manifestations of oppression just because some White feminists are racist or mislead by their White privilege (oh and…some of them truly are).

I realize that it is easier to reject Womanism as a Black woman and adhere to the status quo and whenever I am called out on it, I can blame White feminists for being racist as my reason why I abandon this theory and praxis—I get that. OR I can continue to do the work, which involves critiquing kyriarchy even as it may permeate feminism itself since the people involved in feminist work still live in a kyriarchal society just as the ones who are not involved and either consciously and/or subconsciously accept the status quo are.

When I assert that I am still here for feminism, I also mean that I am NOT here for kyriarchal trickery and nonsense using the label “feminism.” Anyone can use a label. The proof is in the praxis. As bell hooks wrote (as @FeministGriote pointed out in her exquisite essay Allow Me To Reintroduce Myself, My Name Is Feminism):

Feminism is the struggle to end sexist oppression. Its aim is not to benefit solely any specific group of women, any particular race or class of women. It does not privilege women over men. It has the power to transform in a meaningful way all of our lives.

And it does. However, it involves the work of imperfect beings, ones that again, live in the same society as those who reject feminism and rationalize oppression through support of the status quo. Thus, it’s about critique and growth within the movement just as much, if not more, than the oppressive society that exists outside of the movement and permeates the movement. (The movement also permeates society. And, this is the work that matters.)

I mean…what do I look like accepting sexism and misogynoir from some Black men because some White women are racist? This doesn’t even make sense to me. Yet some Black women respond to me with this thinking. Conversely, so many Black women aren’t here for ANY oppression. Word.

Now, about calling oneself a “feminist,” that’s up to a person, individually. I am not interested in the labeling itself IF a person is engaged in the work through a critical intersectional perspective. However, since so many oppressive paradigms have labels, ones that aren’t attacked since they reinforce the status quo, I think anti-oppression work can have labels as well, as I believe in a politics of social location, with certain labels, even if labeling itself is an issue of power and labels themselves impact how people are treated in a kyriarchal society.

Just because I am STILL HERE for feminism does NOT mean that I am going to applaud oppressive bullshit amidst the feminist movement and I expect to be called out on my bullshit as well. How else is change going to occur? The idea that feminism is absolute, a destination (versus a journey) and is whatever the lowest common denominator of feminism is, is actually kyriarchal pushback on anti-oppression work.

How we embody the oppressor within is where all feminist work begins. I am still here for feminism because I am still here for myself. I matter. I am still here for feminism because I am still here for us. We matter.

Related Post: 7 Attacks On Feminism

This is one of my favorite tumblrs

(Emphasis on last two paragraphs added by me)

ladysourpuss:

veeisagenderneutralname:

I feel like this should be obvious. But every time I see someone say “yes means yes; no means no” I cringe a little. Consent isn’t always that simple.

exactly

curvellas:

and honestly, never let any man tell you that you’re too conceited or that he thinks you’re too full of yourself. dr. angelou said some real shit about how modesty is a learned adaptation that people use to cheat themselves out of acknowledging their own greatness. we learn to make ourselves smaller for the world, to accommodate others, to make men feel better and bigger in comparison to us and i’m not here for it. i’m all about remaining humble, but modesty is for the birds. if you smart, be smart, if you pretty, you fucking pretty. if you funny, then own it. whatever is inside you that is good and true and better, embrace that shit. never let people forget that the universe took its damn time cooking you up and the fact that you exist and have made it this far means you’re a miracle by virtue of being alive. 

tw: rape culture

ihaveabsolutelynoidea:

here’s the thing about sex, sexualization, rape culture and the phrase “sex sells”

sex does not sell. at all.

the objectification of women’s bodies is not sex. focusing on breasts or gentials or ass in order to sell a product or an idea is not the same thing as sex. it’s a process that turns people into objects, without agency, and therefor, not human. 

this is rape culture. it’s promoting the idea that women are not people, they are parts to be used and consumed. rape culture sells. 

ads that feature or focus on breasts or genitals or asses or legs or mouths without maintaining a human is sexualization. this is not the same thing as sex. 

sex is more than a body. sex is more than genitals. sex is a process. 

sex is a consensual act. rape is not. there is a difference. 

this why the consent panties and the save the boobies campaign are wrong. they do not focus on people, on lives, on safety, but on the idea that women only exist to be fucked. it focuses on our parts as sexual objects, not on our experiences. 

if you equate objectification with sex, keep your creepy ass indoors and as far away from other people as possible. 

and shrugging off the objectification of women’s bodies in order to sell something as simple “sex sells” is fucking gross.