June 2013
Altering your vocabulary to exclude harmful terms makes the world a more enjoyable and safe place for you and the people around you and also it is not very hard trust me I did it and I don’t do much.
IT REALLY ANNOYS ME HOW ONLY GIRLS GET CALLED OUT FOR SWEARING TOO MUCH BECAUSE “ITS NOT LADYLIKE” FUCK YOU IM NOT HERE TO BE “LADYLIKE” IM HERE TO KICK ASS
“you shouldn’t be depressed, people have it worse than you”
finally, after years of searching, the person with the worst life ever is found. formally, they are granted permission to be sad. but only them. only they have earned it. no sads for anyone else at all ever
“reporting the weather: it is not your job to make someone else feel comfortable by what you are going to say. what is your job, is to tell the truth of how you feel; respecting the importance of your own inner weather. you might take time to find the most gentle and honoring way to tell it, but you tell it. you do not, not tell it. how someone reacts, responds, etc… is theirs. and though it may be difficult to watch someone you care about encounter hard emotions, that is for them to work through/their experience. you do not help them or save them by denying yourself air. in fact, you only serve to create more of a distance between you and your own soul; a distance in the true intimacy between you and them. your soul and theirs knows this is not love. this is not love, rigging your weather reports.”
—
nayyirah waheed (via nayyirahwaheed)
I really like this
“radical softness is not willful weakness. it does not lack firmness. it is remaining inside of your humanity for shelter when you are offered the palace of hate.”
—nayyirah waheed (via nayyirahwaheed)
“i think one
of the most pathological
things i have ever seen
is
to stab
someone
and
then tell them that
their
pain and anger
over being stabbed
is
making you sad.” —
of the most pathological
things i have ever seen
is
to stab
someone
and
then tell them that
their
pain and anger
over being stabbed
is
making you sad.” —
white guilt, nayyirah waheed (via nayyirahwaheed)
damn ^^^
: sadhumangirl: assfcuker: ok so lemme do a short thing about virginity/... →
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ok so lemme do a short thing about virginity/ tightness of vagina. Your vagina gets looser as you become more sexually aroused during intercourse. This is why when you normally put a finger in your vagina, its a lot tighter than when you put it in when you’re aroused. The myth that the vagina is tighter when you’re a virgin is caused by 2 things
1) cis men love the idea of “ruining” a woman’s body (as shown by porn) and they get some sort of sick pleasure from thinking that after having sex with a woman, she will never be the same again.
2) women are more anxious during their first time, which results in them being less sexually aroused and their vagina being more contracted.
if your have kids young enough, your vagina will literally return to it’s previous tightness. That’s how elastic it is. There is no way your vagina becomes “looser after having sex with lots of men”. that’s just
slut shame-ybullshit.Men who brag about shit like “her pussy was tight as hell for me. I ruined that pussy” are just bragging about the fact that they couldnt sexually arouse her enough for her to loosen enough. Which means they are awful at sex. They are bragging about being fucking awful at sex.
The only time your vagina becomes looser is with age and after multiple births.
Anyone who tells you differently is dumb.
So many great posts on my dash tonight.
This is completely true.
The vagina has been observed to actually expand in order to prepare itself to hold semen during arousal so if a guy is bragging about how tight the women he fucks are, he’s bad at sex and you should not fuck him.
Also, the bolded. This is also why the myth of the hymen being “broken” after having sex for the first time exists.
“Suppose a man makes unwanted social advances to a woman in, let’s say, a restaurant or theatre, and she eventually has to tell him loudly or angrily to get lost. She is the one who will be perceived as rude, hostile, aggressive, and obnoxious. His verbal aggression and invasiveness are accepted and expected; her rudeness (or mere curtness) in getting rid of him is noticed and condemned. One of our great myths is that a “real lady” can and should handle any difficulty, defuse any assault, without ever raising her voice or losing her manners. Female rudeness or violence in resistance to male aggression has often been taken to prove that the woman was not a lady in the first place, and therefore deserved no respect from the aggressor or sympathy from others.”
—D.A. Clarke, “A Woman With a Sword” (via wretchedoftheearth)
Shout out to all my fellow lazy/ambitious, procrasinator/perfectionists. Our struggle is real
